Heart to Heart

Yesterday ,21st October, I attended a zambian function to celebrate the independence day. we paid 15 ponunds to see the Zambian artists who are apparently doing well in zed . we got to the function which was meant to start at 8-3am and guess what there was no artist and everyone looked so pensive. I knew from the faces ,there was trouble I almost thought of telling these guys to say these artists had falllen ill or something just to appear to be in control, on the other hand am asking myself why cant i just be this cool person doing my job and not involving my self in patriotic ventures, then of course my up bringing comes in play, almost miraculously i hear my dad saying you can never change who you are, thats crazy am thinking, but then the spirit in me really makes me feel sad for thiese guys who am supposed to persecute for luck of organisation skills in this time and age, because I actually feel they dont trust any of us to help them do a good job yet we persecute them to the letter. anyway it was the so called independece celebration and though not perceved as such even by the organisers we really are zambians at heart and are willing to help even though it may be spiritually for the coz. am sure the learning curve has its course and lessons are being learnt as we speak thank God am sure the manchester people dont read blogs but for my self the Venue was cool the arrangement pathetic so keep it up and please LEARN thats for the ZACOMA!!! zambian bla bla of manchester!!!

AMASHIWI

AMASHIWI

AMASHIWI
Zambia goes to the Polls


I have not been on the blog for over six months, thats because I have been writing a book ,trying to publish a newsletter working in the hospital and trying to be a good mum.
beeing a good mum I think is most challenging especially if youre teaching a child how to write when you spend loads of time creating words ,well in the processing am learning too. any way back to the point my country will be electing a president in a few days time.
we have various candidates but ild really only talk about three the present president Mr mwanawasa.Micheal Sata and Hichilema.
If the educated people held the vote am sure wed vote for hichilema because hes got a good cv he looks the part and hed make us feel like we the fluent are running the show as usual.
but then we have mr mwanawasa too. personally I dont have anything against him under the circumstances hes done hes best and zambia is still the peace full place we know.
chilufya sata some say hes a dictator , hes rugged and not ideal for international policies etc
the grass root voters dont need the degrees, they need Inspiration and that he can give them we all know if he goes in power the cleaners in UTH will add more chlorine to the water to disinfect.
so given these circumstances what is best for the zambian people.
lets talk about the plunderes of the zambian wealth.
at present we dont have proof we only hav hear say and money ranging form a few millions to billions stolen.
the lawyer (mwanawasa has had trouble with this)
so were do we go.
Kaunda says sata is not a good candidate no doubt he came in as governor in his goverment so at the time am sure he had alot to change.
As zambians id hope wed have some one in office who would really inspire us from the comfort zone were we have all packed our selves to the platform of work. the true promise is better health can only get to our footsteps if we work hard .
and value one anothers lives and welfare.
we have to learn from kaundas triumphs of one zambia one nation and from trying to learn why his economics failed.we have to learn from the dream chiluba had of privatisation and understand why the failures happened.
we have to learn from mwanawasa honesy on bringing people to justice who have stolen and try to learn why prosecuting people has become a cat and mouse game wasting taxpayers money.
so from me may the Best one win or if they dont, atleast learn from who ever was meant to be once in office.

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my wedding day  

my birthday by the sea  

iam somewhere in the pic  

Guidelines on safer sex

To spread HIV during sex, HIV infection in blood or sexual fluids must be transmitted to someone. Sexual fluids come from a man's penis or from a woman's vagina, before, during, or after orgasm. HIV can be transmitted when infected fluid gets into someone's body.
You can't spread HIV if there is no HIV infection. If you and your partners are not infected with HIV, there is no risk. An "undetectable Viral load does NOT mean "no HIV infection." If there is no contact with blood or sexual fluids, there is no risk. HIV needs to get into the body for infection to occur.Safer sex guidelines are ways to reduce the risk of spreading HIV during sexual activity.

UNSAFE ACTIVITIESUnsafe sex has a high risk of spreading HIV. The greatest risk is when blood or sexual fluid touches the soft, moist areas (mucous membrane) inside the rectum, vagina, mouth, nose, or at the tip of the penis. These can be damaged easily, which gives HIV a way to get into the body.Vaginal or rectal intercourse without protection is very unsafe. Sexual fluids enter the body, and wherever a man's penis is inserted, it can cause small tears that make HIV infection more likely.{ common in southern Africa where theres a Dry sex practice.} The receptive partner is more likely to be infected, although HIV might be able to enter the penis, especially if it has contact with HIV-infected blood or vaginal fluids for a long time or if it has any open sores.

SAFER ACTIVITIESMost sexual activity carries some risk of spreading HIV. To reduce the risk, make it more difficult for blood or sexual fluid to get into your body.Be aware of your body and your partner's. Cuts, sores, or bleeding gums increase the risk of spreading HIV. Rough physical activity also increases the risk. Even small injuries give HIV a way to get into the body.Use a barrier to prevent contact with blood or sexual fluid. Remember that the body's natural barrier is the skin. If you don't have any cuts or sores, your skin will protect you against infection. However, in rare cases HIV can get into the body through healthy mucous membranes. The risk of infection is much higher if the membranes are damaged.
The most common artificial barrier is a condom for men. You can also use a female condom to protect the vagina or rectum during intercourse. Be sure to use water-based lubricants.Oral sex has some risk of transmitting HIV, especially if sexual fluids get in the mouth and if there are bleeding gums or sores in the mouth. Pieces of latex or plastic wrap over the vagina, or condoms over the penis, can be used as barriers during oral sex. Condoms without lubricants are best for oral sex. Most lubricants taste awful.

SAFE ACTIVITIESSafe activities have no risk for spreading HIV. Abstinence (never having sex) is totally safe. Sex with just one partner is safe as long as neither one of you is infected and if neither one of you ever has sex or shares needles
WHAT IF BOTH PEOPLE ARE ALREADY INFECTED?Some people who are HIV-infected don't see the need to follow safer sex guidelines when they are sexual with other infected people. However, it still makes sense to "play safe". If you don't, you could be exposed to other sexually transmitted infections such as herpes or syphilis. If you already have HIV, these diseases can be more serious.Also, you might get "re-infected" with a different strain of HIV. This new version of HIV might not be controlled by the medications you are taking. It might also be resistant to other HIV antiviral drugs. There is no way of knowing how risky it is for two HIV-positive people to have unsafe sex. Following the guidelines for safer sex will reduce the risk.
SET YOUR LIMITSDecide how much risk you are willing to take. Know how much protection you want to use during different kinds of sexual activities. Before you have sex,
think about safer sex
set your limits
get a supply of lubricant and condoms or other barriers, and be sure they are easy to find when you need them
talk to your partners so they know your limits. Stick to your limits. Don't let alcohol or drugs or an attractive partner make you forget to protect yourself.
THE BOTTOM LINE HIV infection can occur during sexual activity. Sex is safe only if there is no HIV, no blood or sexual fluids, or no way for HIV to get into the body.You can reduce the risk of infection if you avoid unsafe activities or if you use barriers like condoms. Decide on your limits and stick to them.
Lastly Remember Gods providence Because what you trust is maybe the AK 47
on your forehead.

what is the HIV

HIV stands for Human Immunodeficiency Virus. It was originally isolated in Paris in May 1983 by Luc Montagnier. It belongs to a group of viruses called retroviruses. Viruses copy their genetic material into the genetic material of human cells. This means that infected cells stay infected for the rest of their lives. Through mechanisms which are still not fully understood, HIV prevents the immune system from working properly. Normally, the body's immune system would fight off infection. But HIV is able to infect key cells (called CD4 cells) which coordinate the immune system's fight against infection. Many are actually destroyed by being infected; others, including CD4 cells which are not themselves infected, no longer work properly. The life cycle of HIV is discussed in detail in Anti-HIV therapy: Ways of attacking HIV.